Progressive and diverse, California easily stands out as a top destination for LGBT visitors. Home to such world renowned heavens for personal beliefs and lifestyles as San Francisco, West Hollywood and Palm Springs, California has a wide range of LGBT-welcome (or LGBT-owned) inns, restaurants, nightclubs, spas and major happenings that draw huge crowds.
The City by the Bay, known for its liberal, alternative lifestyles, is one of the best-known areas in the world for LGBTQ. In the Castro, a rainbow flag flaps in the wind above colourfully painted pedestrian crossings, making one big statement: San Francisco welcomes the LGBTQ community with open arms. There are more than 60 gay bars and clubs, and although the Castro serves as the epicentre of LGBTQ culture and nightlife, gay-friendly businesses are sprinkled throughout the city—frankly, it’s the norm here. Find out more about the remarkable role the city played and is playing in the gay movement at the GLBT History Museum, or on a guided 'Cruisin’ the Castro' historical walking tour.
Every June is Pride Month, which culminates on the last weekend when up to a million visitors flock to the city for the annual (and outrageous) San Francisco Pride celebration. Taking place in front of City Hall at Civic Center Plaza—a location steeped in LGBTQ history– the festivities include live music and comedy on the main stage, plus cabaret, a Country-Western Dance Corral, a Leather Alley carnival and, pretty much everywhere you look, elaborately costumed performers. Keep your eyes open for celebrities—the celebration has become a real see-and-be-seen opportunity. The main event is Sunday’s parade, which begins at the intersection of Market and Beale Streets and ends near the Civic Center. If you’re in town during Pride Month, also check out a screening or one of the many events hosted by the Frameline LGBT film festival.
Attending the world’s largest LGBTQ gathering can present a few challenges; check out some tips on how to get the most of it. If you are new to the city’s gay scene, Badlands, Lookout and Twin Peaks Tavern are legendary haunts, and The Parker Guest House, the Hotel Whitcomb, Joie de Vivre Hotels and the W are just a few of the city’s gay-friendly hotels.
A note to parents: there are plenty of pride events that are family and child friendly going on in San Francisco during Pride Month. Directly opposite the Asian Art Museum right around the corner from the Civic Center, the annual Family Garden event offers the perfect venue for kids to celebrate diversity with arts, crafts, face-painting and more; children are also encouraged to participate for free in the San Francisco Frontrunners Pride Run. You can also check the events calendar at Habitot.org and the Pride with Our Families page at ourfamily.org.
Insider tip: when planning a visit to San Francisco during Gay Pride Month, be sure to book well in advance, as accommodation fills up quickly.
Fabulous pool parties. Stylish bars and impeccably designed hotels. Pampering spas and energetic nightclubs. Lavish events. There’s no question that the Palm Springs region ranks as one of the world’s top destinations for LGBTQ travellers. Whether you’re a couple (with or without kids) or looking for a singles scene, Palm Springs and its neighbouring cities offer memorable experiences, from tranquil retreats to clothing optional resorts.
The scene really heats up when the weather cools down in late autumn and winter—some estimates put the local LGBTQ population at over 30 per cent during this time. Though June is the traditional month to celebrate LGBTQ Pride, many Pride events take place in November here; the Greater Palm Springs Pride event kicks off the season early in the month with an eye popping parade and street party, including games and arts and crafts activities for kids of all ages. Another family friendly Pride event is the Desert Hot Springs Pride Festival in mid November. And come March, nearby Cathedral City has its own, more adult focused LGBTQ Days event, a free festival held over Easter weekend featuring an opening night party, a Bed Race through the streets of the city and live musical performances.
The party filled Dinah Shore Weekend/Palm Springs Women’s Weekend (or just 'The Dinah'), in early April, coincides with the ANA Inspiration LPGA Golf Championship and is considered the world’s largest lesbian happening. A few weeks later it’s the guys’ turn and time for the dancing and pool parties of the Palm Springs White Party, the area’s biggest annual gay event.
In September, cinephiles flock to Cinema Diverse: The Palm Springs LGBTQ Film Festival, which attracts submissions and attendees from around the world. And when it comes to one particular scene, Palm Springs will not be outdone: The Palm Springs Leather Pride weekend in late October has become one of the nation’s largest events of its kind, culminating in the crowning of Mr Leather.
Insider tip: check out the Greater Palm Springs LGBTQ calendar for a complete list of events.
With its sunny beaches and active lifestyle, plus plenty of cultural attractions San Diego make an appealing destination for alternate lifestyle visitors. The centre of LGBT lifestyle is the leafy Hillcrest neighbourhood, a retro-hip enclave (check out the neighbourhood’s landmark 1940s-style neon sign) north west of Balboa Park. Among other reasons to visit, Hillcrest is a shopper’s heaven, with distinctive boutiques and plenty of cafés where you can dine al fresco and compare your favourite finds of the day. Dig into classic American comfort foods at Gossip Grill, then dance the night away at The Brass Rail, San Diego’s oldest gay bar. A short drive from Hillcrest, catch productions showcasing LGBT stories and themes at the Diversionary Theatre, first opened in 1986.
Would you like some beach time? The recognised gay stretch of sand in the region is Black’s Beach in Torrey Pines State Park in La Jolla. Students from nearby U.C. San Diego also gravitate here, and why not? The long, flat beach at the base of the cliffs is a visual stunner, with waves perfect for boogie-boarding and body surfing. Clothing tends to be optional.
With its year-round sun, San Diego does not really have a “best” time to visit but LGBT visitors might want to aim for San Diego LGBT Pride, a three-day celebration in July that draws 300,000 people to its parade, festival and street party.
At the base of the Hollywood Hills, the city of West Hollywood is the centre of LGBTQ Los Angeles. In 1984, West Hollywood became the first majority-gay municipality in the country, and ever since, its rich tradition of pride and acceptance has been enjoyed by locals and visitors alike. Today, LGBTQ residents comprise more than 40 per cent of the 1.9-square-mile community, and the pedestrian crossings are painted in welcoming rainbows.
It goes without saying that the entire area is LGBTQ-friendly with excellent restaurants, hotels and shopping on every corner. As for nightlife, consider The Abbey as your first stop. One of the most famous gay bars and nightclubs in the world, The Abbey has everything from go-go dancers to high-end cocktails and surprisingly good food. Turn up the volume at Girl Bar and check out Fubar if you’re looking for an underground feel, or try The Bayou for a late-night happy-hour scene. End the weekend with drag-queen bingo nights held every Sunday at Hamburger Mary’s.
Come June, West Hollywood becomes the home base for the LA Pride Festival and Parade. The month-long celebration includes festivities around the city, but the main event is the two-day festival in West Hollywood Park, which welcomes more than 400,000 people each year. Listen to A-list musicians perform on the event’s three stages and watch the elaborate floats roll by at the Sunday parade. Additionally, One City One Pride commences in late May, showcasing LGBTQ visual and performing arts with free events around the city.
A historic art colony with a long-established gay community, Laguna Beach is Orange County’s leading LGBT city. Stay in such gay-friendly spots as the Surf and Sand Resort, a spectacular oceanfront luxury hotel that’s also home to the intimate (and LGBT-friendly) Aquaterra Spa. Swim and surf in secluded coves and sunny beaches (including such gay-popular stretches as West Beach and Mountain Road Beach), then browse for high-quality art in Laguna’s numerous galleries. For more great art, visit Laguna Art Museum, known for outstanding exhibits works by some of California most important contemporary artists. At night, catch performances at the acclaimed Laguna Playhouse, then dance and hang with the locals at Club Bounce, especially lively during Laguna’s busy summer months. For an unforgettable experience, try to get tickets to the annual Pageant of the Masters, an extravaganza featuring richly costumed live performers depicting characters in master artworks.
Discover a more rustic side to Northern California’s LGBTQ scene in the woodland setting of Guerneville about 90 minutes north of San Francisco. Set among majestic redwood forests on the banks of the Russian River, the tucked-away hamlet has been the go to gay getaway for Bay Area weekenders for decades earning it the nickname of the 'Gay Riviera'.
For pinch me perfect romantic settings to enjoy with any partner, book a stay at the luxurious Mission Revival–style Applewood Inn, or at least dine in the firelight lit restaurant (the wine list is a stunner-not a surprise in Sonoma County). Another option is Boon Hotel + Spa, opened in 2008 by local entrepreneur and quasi-celebrity (she was named Triple Grand Champion on Guy Fieri’s Food Network show Grocery Games) Crista Luedtre. Also check out her other local restaurant endeavours, farm to table bistro Boon Eat + Drink, German beer hall Brot and modern Mexican bar El Barrio. For a truly down to earth and easygoing stay, Highlands Resort offers a wide array of cosy cabins and suites and promotes an 'unplugged' approach to relaxation.
During the day, hire a canoe from Burke’s Canoe Trips—a long standing local classic—and zigzag down the easy to paddle Russian River. Back on land, walk through stands of giant trees in Armstrong Redwoods State Natural Reserve, just north of the town at the end of Armstrong Woods Road.
Add some indulgence to your day with a wine or champagne tasting at Korbel California Champagnes in Guerneville or follow country roads south towards Healdsburg, sampling acclaimed Pinot Noirs and Zinfandels at countless wineries along the way. At night catch the action at the landmark Rainbow Cattle Co., a party destination since 1979 or the Bar at the R3 Hotel, another long standing favourite of the LGBTQ crowd. Featured prominently on the Russian River calendar of events is an entire week starting in late July devoted to 'bears'—and good deeds—during Lazy Bear Week, when profits from all dance parties, pool parties, wine tastings, gourmet meals and more go to charity.
If you’re visiting with children be aware that many LGBTQ focused accommodation options in Guerneville are adult oriented. Check their websites before booking. If you’re looking for child friendly events to celebrate Pride Month see what’s happening at sonomacountypride.org.